Love Him by Doing Him Good – Part 1
King Lemuel’s words move on to a fundamental statement that is too often ignored: “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” So, let’s start from the beginning.
First, of course, this is a description of the excellent wife. On its surface, it seems almost routine. We would consider it almost a tautology, of course she does him good. But does she really?
In Proverbs, “good” is not a moral concept but a practical concept. It means something that is good for him. To “do someone good” is to make his life better.
If I took your husband aside today and asked him about you, what would he say? Would he say, “she makes my life better every day?” Is his life so much better than it would be without you?
This is an astonishingly simple concept. In the class, for example, someone mentioned the benefit to her husband from her meal selection, how he had lost weight and become healthier. That is “doing him good” in your meal preparation.
How to do someone good depends on your situation and the needs of your husband, but the concept is applicable to every wife. Are you, in fact, focused on your husband at all?
Simple questions. When he comes home, what does he find? If you are doing something, do you just keep doing it or do you welcome him? Is it his job to find you, or do you come to him? What is the conversation when he gets home? Is it about things that have gone wrong or about things that are right?
A wife is to be a helpmate, in the old King James language. In what ways have you helped your husband in his life?
Put even more simply, is he glad he married you? Does he thank God for your kindness, your support, the pleasure that you bring into his life?
Or does he think that, perhaps, it would be better to be single?
A marriage is just a relationship between two people who love one another. If your home were watched all day, how would I be able to tell that you loved one another?